REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER DIVORCE
Divorce is one of the most painful and stressful experiences a person can face in life. If you approach it in a conscious and empowered way, it can also be gateway to a healthier and happier relationship WITH YOURSELF. Out of this comes the possibility of experiencing better relationships with others, including your children, family, friends, and yes - your former partner.
Divorce is a death — the death of your marriage and all the hopes and dreams you had of “happily ever after.” With the death of your marriage comes a whole host of potential secondary losses:
Loss of income
Loss of identity
Loss of social status
Loss of dreams for the future
Loss of faith
Loss of confidence
Loss of financial security
Loss of support system and community
Loss of friends and family
Grief comes knocking at your door, insisting to be let in whether you want to or not.
Even the process of divorcing brings feelings of powerlessness, overwhelm, chaos, confusion, etc. How are you coping with all of this? Take my free “Coping with Your Divorce Assessment” to discover how you are doing in areas like finance, legal process, co-parenting, etc. In 5 minutes, you’ll have a comprehensive report that shows the areas that most need your immediate focus to help you navigate through the divorce process.
My approach with clients is to help them understand where their power truly comes from, help them connect to it again, start making decisions that are aligned with their truth, and begin rebuilding their lives after their divorce. It starts with recognizing that the inner process of healing is the first step.
What clients are saying about the program:
"I began coaching with Carrie at the beginning of my divorce process when my life felt like it was in shambles. I didn't know how I was going to make it through the end of my marriage. Carrie helped me to remain focused on what was important - my two daughters - and moving forward in life. She taught me the power of forgiveness, how to be kinder to myself, and how to work through the feelings of sadness, anger, and anxiety that came up for me. Carrie supported me in embracing my strengths and helped me discover new strengths that I didn't even know that I had. Her approach was gentle, but also firm when I needed it. She helped me lift out of the crippling negative inner dialogue that I would sometimes get into and learn to accept and love myself no matter what.
Through each step of the divorce she helped me make clear, aligned decisions for myself and my girls that created greater acceptance, peace, and harmony for our entire family.
"One day, my wife of 25 years came home from work and told me the following words: 'I'm not happy. I don't love you and I want a divorce.' I was devastated, my world shattered, and the course of my life new life was charted. I didn't want that new life. I wanted my old life back.
As with all good husbands, I attempted to rectify the marriage by grasping at any service that would help me save my family, which consisted of my wife, daughter, and son. No one helped me.
I was 44 years old when we separated and I wanted my life to be over. I cried every day, lost weight, and waited for the day when my failure to eat would inevitably take its toll on my body. I hoped that one night I would go to sleep and not wake up, not have to face the pain and sadness of my life. Then, I was introduced to Carrie Doubts, owner of Life's Next Chapter Coaching.
Carrie never gave up on me, even when I wanted to. She supported me through the divorce and my grief, allowed me the dignity of my process, gave me a shoulder to cry on, and the ability of channeling my anger through constructive means.
Carrie is simply the best at what she does. I am a better person, a survivor of life's lessons, and my heart is nearly healed.”
~ E.G., Police Recruit
REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER DIVORCE: OUR PHILOSOPHY/ GUIDING PRINCIPLES
YOU DESERVE THE DIGNITY OF YOUR PROCESS
It’s important to accept that you are going through a difficult, stressful time - whether you initiated the divorce you were the one being “dumped.” You need time and understanding to process the emotional vertigo you experience when your heart has been broken. There is nothing “wrong” with you and you don’t need to be fixed.
you need to be met and supported where you are
Sometimes you are a hot mess and sometimes you’re doing ok. Your friends and family (as much as they care about you) may not know how to hold space for you to just be where you are (especially the hot mess part). They want to “fix” you so you feel better.
Nobody likes being fixed. You just need to be heard.
feelings are not facts
Feelings do need to be met with acceptance and compassion, but they are not the basis to be making good decisions about life, about others, and about yourself. When you are feeling low, your creativity and resourcefulness is also low. We teach you to be with your feelings, to have them, but to not let them have you.
you didn’t fail your marriage. it failed you.
There are seven components of a healthy marriage that when one or more break down, it will lead to the marriage failing. It’s important to see the role you played in the breakdown and take responsibility for that, but it does not mean YOU are a failure.
you are capable, resourceful, creative, and whole
You may have forgotten this and made other decisions about what your breakup means about YOU. We don’t buy into the false beliefs you create about who you are, but continually hold up the mirror so you can see the true you.
you will love again, for love is your nature
You are made up of the unconditioned self (soul) and the learned self (ego). The soul lives in the basic trust that you are loved and the basic truth that you are lovable. The ego’s basic doubt is “Am I loved?” or “Does love even exist?” The ego’s basic fear is that you are not lovable and that love does not exist. Divorce is one of those experiences that kicks up the ego’s basic doubts and fears - which makes it difficult to trust that you could ever be vulnerable enough to try to love again. Anchoring you in the knowing that you are a soul having a human experience restores your knowing at a deep level that you are made of love and that no one can take that away from you.
REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER DIVORCE COACHING GROUP
Are you sick and tired of feeling like a victim as a result of your divorce? Are you ready to pick up the pieces of what’s left of your life and start rebuilding it — but don’t know how? This group program is designed to support you in navigating through this stressful life transition and create the life you want to be living on the other side of your divorce.
This is a time to take a deep dive into YOU, what you want out of life, why that’s important to you, and handling what’s in your way of achieving your goals and dreams.
Here’s what you will create for yourself as a result of participating in the group:
Knowing who you are and what you want — and a clear plan with the action steps you’ll take to get there
Knowing you can count on yourself to handle your life’s challenges
Greater self-love and appreciation — which positively impacts your relationships with others
Learning to let go of a fear-based mindset that gets in the way of your taking focused action
Understanding how your energy impacts you on all levels and how to shift from low to high energy to get UNSTUCK and moving forward
Learning where your blind spots are and how to navigate safely through them
Experiencing the freedom to wholeheartedly live and love again
You’ll be challenged to set new goals that will move you forward into your new life. This is about making significant progress — AND RAPIDLY — in the areas of your life that matter most to you. You will be learning and taking action on what you’ve learned to harness the transformational energy of this big life transition to create positive change — as defined by YOU. And, you’ll be held accountable (with loving kindness, but I won’t let you wimp out on yourself either!) for the results you want.
Basic Membership includes:
Group video conference meetings (2 per month) where you will learn new information, receive tools and tips, and complete exercises, giving you the experience of putting the information you learn into action. You will also have the opportunity to have your questions answered, experience a brief coaching, or just receive support if you are in need of inspiration and encouragement. This also gives you the opportunity to hear the answers to others' questions and be present while they are being coached. Often these experiences serve to handle something that might also be present for you, or to let you know that you aren't the only person who feels this way.
A Client-only Facebook page where you will have the opportunity to communicate with your community - those people who know what you are going through and are also dedicated to experiencing healing and transformation. Not only will you receive support and acceptance from the "tribe" you will also be inspired by the stories and successes of your group.
Access to My Online Courses with topics such as Transitions and Transformations, Coping with Grief, Visioning and Goal Setting, What Matters Most, etc. at a discounted cost.
A Resource List of books, videos, inspirational material, and other learning resources that I make available to my clients as part of the program.
Each quarter, I will bring in a Subject Matter Expert in areas like Divorce law, financial planning, effective co-parenting, etc to provide education and tips on some of the most pressing problems divorcing people face.
From time to time I will schedule in-person workshops and healing retreats, or offer information about others' work that is in alignment with my approaches and philosophy. Since you are part of my "tribe" you will be the first to receive Invitations and discounts to workshops and retreats. I make it my business to offer significant savings to you.
Cost $37/month with a 6-month commitment
VIP Membership includes everything above, plus:
An Energy Leadership Index Assessment and comprehensive debrief session (in your first month). This assessment provides the framework for our work together in affirming who you are, as contrasted with how you react to the stresses in your life. It's so helpful to know that, while you are dealing with the emotional effects your divorce has on you, this is not WHO you are. You'll discover your strengths and we'll discuss strategies for raising your energy levels throughout our time together.
Monthly individual coaching sessions where you receive one-on-one support to explore with me some of the deeper issues that may be coming forward and a safe place for healing and growth.
You can e-mail me any time for E-coaching to answer your questions or if you just want to receive an encouraging and supportive message about something you might be struggling with.
To find out more about this program and the starting dates, or to book a complementary Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce Discovery session, please click on the "Contact Us" link below:
Cost $287/month with a 6-month commitment